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Dating a medical student long distance

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Multireddit of RHN Subreddits. A couple months into the long distance thing, and I'm struggling to balance school, my personal time, and time with my s. Just wanted to get a sense of how others are handling it and what kind of agreements they have with their s.

Myself and my SO have made it work for three years. He's three years above me and graduating in less than a week, so I've spent my entire med school education thus far in long distance. Remember it works for some people, it doesn't for others. Some people naturally settle into long distance, others really struggle. The key is to be aware that both of you have hectic schedules and be Dating a medical student long distance to make sacrifices and compromises. Be honest about your work schedule and keep your SO filled in on what's going on, so they know when to lay off and let you work when you're busy and when to expect a bit more contact.

Feelings can be uncomfortable to talk about, but get into the practice of talking about them because it will make a lot of things a hell of a lot easier in your relationship when you start to hit road bumps. Skype study sessions are good - turn on your webcam, mute the other person and get to work. Being able to look up and see your SO every now and then is Dating a medical student long distance. You don't have to be constantly talking.

Be prepared for arguments over stupid things, like misinterpreting text messages. They will happen, and they will suck. When Dating a medical student long distance start getting upset or angry over something use a bit of insight and try to see if you're making mountains over molehills. If you explode - don't beat yourself up over it.

Apologise and move on. Likewise don't hold explosions against your SO: I would give you a whole lot more advice but I'm in the middle of a cram session: As mentioned at the start some people cope better with LDR Dating a medical student long distance others; some people are totally unequipped to deal with LDR, others fit into LDR like they've never had any kind of relationship.

Remember; you're more likely to hear the horror stories because they're the public things that people hear about more, and they make a far more interesting story to re-tell.

For every horror story of LDR there are Dating a medical student long distance couple sitting away happily skyping each other; you don't hear about them because their story just isn't as interesting to tell. This was always a great date to look forward too during my long-distance relationship.

Seriously, despite what the TV...

Great way to kick back after a long week. I would always be trying to sync up the voices lol. She'd constantly ask why I was hitting my space bar so much.

Long-distance medical relationships will never...

Also - don't get mad with friends or family who tell you they don't work. It's frustrating but remember they are saying this because, for reasons I've explained previously, they've only heard bad stories and they love you and are trying to protect you.

Want to add to the...

As frustrating as it is, see that from their perspective and don't get mad at them - you need a great support network to get through things when you don't have your SO around to lean on.

Alienating them by getting mad because they are trying to protect you from something they don't really understand will not help your LDR in the long run.

Another positive datapoint here. We were together before she started and she's graduating in a few months. We're on the same coast but a Dating a medical student long distance plane ride apart.

Certainly not easy but it works. Neither of us Dating a medical student long distance much free time but we spend a lot of it watching things together, remotely, and otherwise taking on the phone. If your school does recorded lectures, do that. That's how we made it work. Just takes some planning and a lot of Skyping. It was one of the hardest things to go through, but one of the easiest decisions to make for me.

First you have to realize that unless you're really super concerned about AOA or something, your grades for the first two years don't really matter, so there's no need to sweat grades as long as you're doing alright.

This allows you to do school and the relationship without causing as many problems of guilt for traveling and not studying or whatever. Then, just try to be realistic and think about whether or not you really want to be with this person or if you're not as sure about the relationship's potential. If you really think it has potential, go for it. I know from experience that this still puts a strain on things more than the average student, but I wouldn't trade my S.

There's also ways to be productive when you're traveling to see each other, such as listening to lecture mp3's in the car or basically anything if you're flying. For MS2 year, I highly recommend listening to Goljan tapes in the Dating a medical student long distance. They're fun and you're still learning and reinforcing things. Totally agree with this. When it's good, it's great. But now I think tensions are building up.

I get scared when we have disputes, because it's so much harder to go through when it's not in person. Reading through the tread I'm glad there are so many positive responses. Distance Dating a medical student long distance work out for my SO and I, but there were some outside things that contributed to us separating Dating a medical student long distance well.

Sometimes it Dating a medical student long distance, sometimes it doesn't. Having the proper expectations about how the relationship will change is vital. Things started to go down hill, and it took me a while to realize it was because my SO still expected a particular level of contact that I just couldn't give. Explaining that you don't 'have time' is really difficult, especially when adjusting to just starting medical school. Trying to explain to people who aren't following our life style just how busy you can get is frustrating: But, try your best, and I'd like to think barring anything out of left field like what happened in my situation the relationship will work out.

Before we separated my girlfriend and I weren't inseparable, but it was pretty close. When we were away from each other there were a lot of Facebook messages, texts, FaceTime chats etc. We'd been in long distance situations beforehand, but Dating a medical student long distance always been able to make contact with each other, and I think that is why we were able to still work through those periods.

The real problem with medical school was that the time for contact shrunk so dramatically, so quickly, that it was a bit of a shock to the system.

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All of that, coupled with outside circumstances, just kind of doused the fire. I thought it was great. The rest I spent distraction free just studying my butt off. No passive aggressiveness during your talks. It works out if you want it to. For me, I wasn't going to leave her over the LDR, it would have had to have been something much more egregious than me just wanting to be with someone closer. One thing I'd add is make goals you can look forward to; like that weekend you'll visit her for Halloween and you have this awesome couples costume Honestly, I can't imagine being in anything other than my LDR.

I am a first year, like you, and have been dating my BF for almost 3 years. I have seen quite a few relationships already crumble and quite a few that are very dishonest on at least on one end. I am not even remotely interested in ending my relationship or dating Dating a medical student long distance in my class, mostly because the things I like about being with my boyfriend are more important to me than anything I could have with someone else: Our ability to have meaningful conversations, his unconditional love for me, his ability to make me feel safe and confident, even when medical school is kicking my ass, these things make my life so much easier.

Sometimes, yeah, I envy my single classmates who can buddy up and have fun you know what I mean. Every once in a while, I wish my bf were here so I could see him after a long draining lab.

Long distance is hard enough, Dating a medical student long distance alone with a medical student! even lit a candle and poured a glass of wine to make it feel like a real date. Medical residency can represent one of the most stressful components of a. Research on college students compared those in long-distance relationships with those in .

Dating a medical student long distance and Dating Relationships., Ind: Purdue University, West. In the medical field, it is very common to see long distance relationships amongst healthcare professionals including medical students.

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